Things we do already, or have seen another ally do:
· “swallow” you discomfort to behave respectfully, even if you don’t understand or “agree with” someone’s gender
· educate others: do a “trans 101” for your friends/visitors before they meet your trans friend/housemate/etc
· offer yourself as a resource for people who have questions about trans issues
· correct others’ pronoun use (friends & strangers)
· ask trans friends how you’d like them to handle it when you hear someone call them an incorrect pronoun
· volunteer with Mass Trans Political Coalition (www.masstpc.org)
· be a good friend. lots of trans people lose friends when they come out. be a friend they won’t have to lose.
· interrupt when someone’s getting “interrogated” about their gender or about trans issues in general
· e-mail professors with feedback about how their behavior in class might affect trans students
Things we’d like to do, or things we’d like to do more:
· learn "gender neutral" (or "third gender") pronouns. practice at home.
· if you use a wrong pronoun by mistake – apologize, correct yourself, and move on.
· become more comfortable educating others and answering questions
· become more comfortable answering the tough and/or offensive questions. (practice at home?)
· spend time with other trans-allies. don’t isolate yourself! get support.
· be intentional with programming & publicity in orgs and houses – notice gendered language on posters, e.g.
· find ways to offer support to trans and/or questioning friends, without patronizing
Add your own:
·(also, you can find more trans-related handouts and resources on my other website, here)