Thanks for your contributions! I appreciate all the painful-humorous stories. It is good to be able to laugh at our lives sometimes.
Maybe I should have been more clear about what I meant by ironies that only happen to trans people. For me, being trans is not in itself ironic. I'm a boy, and I have periods. That's not ironic. It's just how I am. I'm female-bodied, and I wear boxer shorts. That's not ironic, either. But the "oh-shit" of blood stains combined with the "ahh, freedom!" of boxer shorts ... somehow, that's funnier.
I guess it's a fine distinction. Maybe I'm just being picky. Maybe y'all can help me figure out what makes some trans ironies funny, and others just hard.
Here's another one:
I'm a guy, and I still have a collection of leotards and dance tights in my closet. That's not ironic. My straight-feminine friends don't have that stuff, because they were never dancers. That's not ironic, either. But when they want to play dress-ups for Halloween, and I'm the only one with the body and the gear to pull off "ballerina," that's ironic.
Usually I don't choose to be a ballerina for Halloween. I'm more likely to be a baseball player, because it feels better for my gender. I can pull it off because I have the gear for that, too - not because I'm a guy, but because I used to be a big softball dyke. Ironic, right?
Maybe there are types of trans ironies. Maybe we should start to catalogue them.
There's the "FtM does girl stuff more successfully than feminine women friends" ironies. (E.g. it's not ironic for a trans guy to sing soprano, but it is ironic for him to be the best soprano in the choir.)
There's the "FtM has a particular masculine-gendered skill, but only because he used to be a dyke" ironies. (The softball thing would fall under this category.)
Are there more?
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